Friday, 18 March 2016

Teenage Cultist Shoots Dead 65 Year Old Widow

Teenage Cultist Shoots Dead 65 Year Old Widow

The Edo state Police Com­mand has confirmed the death of a 65 yr-old retired headmistress who was shot dead by a teenage cultist in Benin City.
Mrs Clara Uwaifo who retired as headmistress, Uwelu Primary School last August was gunned down at the gate of her residence at 27, Oviawe Street, Off Upper Siluko Road, Ogida, Benin-City, about 3p.m on Wednesday.
The widow was returning from the hospital where she had gone to see her daughter who just put to bed when she was shot from behind.
When our Correspondent vis­ited the residence, yesterday, it was gathered that the suspect followed the grandmother closely as she ap­proached the gate before shooting her at a close range. Sympathizers however besieged the compound and rained curses on the killer.
The deceased, a widow, was attacked by the assassin while returning from a hospital where she had gone to see her daughter who gave birth to  a baby.
When journalists visited the home of the Uwaifos,  on Friday, sympathisers who besieged the compound were heard sending curses to  the killer of the woman.
One of the granddaughters of the deceased who allegedly witnessed the gruesome murder  told journalists that she was returning from school when she saw her grandmother also approaching the gate with the suspect following her closely.
She further stated that as she doubled up her steps to meet up with her grandmother in order to assist her with one of the bags she carried, the teenager pulled out a short gun from the pocket of his trousers and shot at the woman from behind.
She however said she identified the suspect as the son of their neighbour whose family has been at loggerheads with the Uwaifos.
She also alleged that members of the suspect’s family had several times threatened to kill the woman and that the threat was reported at the State Criminal Investigation Department, Benin City, last year.
The State Police Command Public Relations Officer, DSP Abiodun Osifo, who confirmed the murder of the retired headmistress, identified the suspect as “one Happy Agbangbanyan, a teenage cultist and serial killer on police wanted list.
He added that the police are already on his trail.

2019: Okorocha sacks SSG

2019: Okorocha sacks SSG

2019: Okorocha sacks SSG

Imo State Governor, Owelle Rochas Okorocha, yesterday sacked the Secretary to the State Government (SSG), Sir Jude Ejiogu. Although the statement signed by the Principal Secretary to the Governor, Dr. Pascal Obi, did not attach any reason to the sack, it was gathered that the dismissal was not unconnected with the race for 2019 governorship election in the state. The statement however, directed the former SSG to hand over all government property in his custody to the permanent secretary. Sir Ejiogu, who represented Governor Rochas Okorocha at both the commissioning of Shoprite on Wednesday and the convocation dinner of Imo State University at Concorde Hotel on Thursday, did not have the premonition that he would be sacked the next day (Friday).
It was gathered that before the sack, the ex- SSG, who started as the Chief of Staff had been having running battle with some individuals in the governor’s cabinet over his ambition to run for the governorship seat in 2019. However, Saturday Mirror gathered from a reliable source close to the Government House that the former government scribe was sacked following his stake in the Shoprite deal which the source stated the governor was angry about. But the Special Adviser, Media and Publicity to the former SSG, Ikenna Onuoha, said that the sack was politically motivated. “If there was anything the former scribe had done, they would have stated it in their press statement. The man was not indicted of any misdeed.” It would be recalled that the former Deputy Governor, Jude Agbaso, a kinsman to Sir Ejiogu, who also hails from Owerri North Local Government Area was also removed from office

Christian Elders slam Buhari over Nigeria’s membership of Islamic coalition

Christian Elders slam Buhari over Nigeria’s membership of Islamic coalition

Top Nigerian artistes likely in copyright mess On March 19, 20163:34 amIn Entertainment

Top Nigerian artistes likely in copyright mess On March 19, 20163:34 amIn Entertainment, News by IkennaComments By TOFARATI IGE Copyright infringement is a crime that is frowned at all over the world. Albeit, it is taken more seriously in some countries than others. In Nigeria it is hardly a crime to scrounge on another’s intellectual property, little wonder it is practiced with some measure of gusto. In this illuminating piece, we take a look at some of the culprits of this particular crime. Enjoy… P-Square Peter and Paul Okoye of P-Square are one of the biggest artistes out of Africa. They’re also one of the most guilty when it comes to copyright issue. The duo brazenly lifts lyrics and rhythms from other songs; especially international ones. They are known to have sampled existing music for their songs like ‘Danger,’ ‘Get Squared,’ ‘Last Nite,’ ‘Roll It,’ ‘Onyinye,’ ‘Game Over’ among others. It should be recalled that an actress, Steph Nora-Okereke, once accused the twin brothers of stealing her song, ‘Jeje’ which she had earlier sent to their brother, Jude, to get his opinion. P-Square brothersP-Square brothers Ketchup Ketchup’s career is just warming up, but he needs to be really careful if he wants to have a long stay in the music industry. In one of his latest songs, ‘Pam Pam,’ Ketchup wantonly lifted the lyrics from Shaggy’s ‘It Wasn’t Me,’ and Chaka Demus & Pliers’ ‘Bam Bam.’ The copyright infringement is so blatant as Ketchup sang, ‘Shoddy came in and she caught me red-handed sleeping with the girl next door…’ which is the exact lyrics used by Shaggy in the original song. It would be interesting to see what will happen if Ketchup travels out of the country to perform ‘Pam Pam,’ and Shaggy, Chaka Demus & Pliers, or their representatives, get a wind of it. Well; your guess is as good as mine! DI’JA Half-Sierra-Leonan, half-Nigerian Mavin singer, Dija,is also culpable when it comes to copyright infringement. In her latest song, ‘Take Kiss,’ she sampled another Nigerian singer, Jodie’s ‘Kuchi Kuchi’ melody. She also borrowed a leaf from Ketchup as she ‘stole’ from Shaggy’s ‘It Wasn’t Me’ for one of the verses of her song as well. Olamide This dude from Bariga, Lagos, is distinctly talented and creative; everybody knows that. But he is also in this copyright bus. He used the name of a popular old movie, ‘Yemi My Lover’ as the title of his 2013 hit-song; and of course, that made the record more successful as it invoked nostalgic feelings in people who are familiar with the movie. In an earlier chat, Yemi Ayebo, who is the producer of the movie, stated that Olamide did not seek his permission in any way before using the film-title. However, Yemi stated that he likes Olamide’s music; hence, he wouldn’t be dragging the ‘Durosoke’ rapper to the court. It should be recalled that D’banj’s producer, Deevee, recently called out the rapper for stealing D’banj’s song to make his own ‘Don’t Stop’ which is contained in his ‘Eyan Mayweather’ album. Clarence Peters Nigerian music video directors have been given kudos for the good quality of music videos they have managed to churn out over the years. But many of them are also borrowing other people’s goods without acknowledgment Clarence Peters is alleged to have stolen concepts from many foreign songs for the videos he directs. He reportedly copied the idea of South African rapper, Tumi Molekane’s ‘Asinamali’ for Tiwa Savage’s ‘Eminado.’ Clarence was also accused of yanking the concept of US rap group, Slaughterhouse’s ‘My Life’ video for Ice Prince’s ‘VIP.’ The above examples are just some of the many allegations against Peters, though he has never addressed the issue. MOE MUSA London-based Mr. Moe Musa is another video director walking the thin line of copyright infringement. He is alleged to have stolen the concept for Davido’s ‘Skelewu’ music video from LMFAO’s ‘Party Anthem’ as both music videos have similar scenes and sequence. 2face/Blackface Former Plantashun Boiz group members, 2face and Blackface have been at loggerheads for a while due to issues of copyright. Blackface is alleged to have written the widely-successful ‘African Queen’ which 2face got acclaim for. However, 2face later paid Blackface royalties from the song. More recently, Blackface accused 2face of also denying him credit in the song ‘Let Somebody Love You’ which they both wrote together in their days as Plantashun Boiz. 2face later featured American singer, Bridget Kelly in the song, and included it in his The Ascension album. Wizkid/Blackface Blackface also recently accused Wizkid of stealing the lyrics for his global hit, ‘Ojuelegba’ from him. Davido/Password Omo Baba Olowo singer, Davido had his share of copyright infringement controversy when an upcoming act, Password accused him of stealing the concept and lyrics of the song, ‘Gobe.’ Skales/Wizkid Former EME signees, Wizkid and Skales went for each other’s jugular over the widely popular song, ‘Azonto.’ Skales claimed that Wizzy stole the song from him.

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How we planned, executed Lagos schoolgirls’ kidnap by Ebele Boniface, March 19, 2016 at 3:08 am

How we planned, executed Lagos schoolgirls’ kidnap
PARADED by the Inspector General of Police (IGP) Special Intelligence Response Squad (IGPIRS) Team, three of the suspects, who recently abducted secondary school girls in Ikorodu, spoke to The Nation, giving graphic details of how they planned and carried out the operation.
Kidnap would have fetched me N5m, says first suspect
“My name is Omoni Fred Rufus. I am from Ese Odo Local Government Area of Ondo State. I am 32-years-old and I left secondary school in 2002, and I went into sawmill business. I was born in Ibeju-Lekki area of Lagos State. My father is a wood logger, while my mother is a fishmonger. I sell most of my wood at Ebute-Meta and I have never done anything criminal until last January.”
On his involvement in the kidnap of the girls, he said: “One of my friends, known as Bamidele, whom I have known for a long time, called me and said he had a job for me. This person I am talking about was arrested last year, and was charged to court for kidnapping and remanded in Ogun State prison.
“When he was released in January, he called me and said that one of his friends, who he said he met in prison, called and told him that he had a job for him. He said he wanted me to be part of the operation because I had a car. I asked him what kind of job it was and he told me that it was kidnapping, and that his friend who he identified as Gay, would like to meet him and me so that we can arrange the operation.
“We met him the next day at a petrol station on the Lagos-Ibadan Expressway, and when we met Gay, he told us that the man we were to kidnap was very rich and he was going to bring three more boys who would assist us. Gay explained that he was going to monitor the man’s movement and then he would alert us to his position to enable us kidnap him.
“The next day, I was in the same filling station with Bamidele, and Gay came with some boys and later left, but some few hours later, he called and gave us the description of the man’s car and his location, and when we sighted the car matching the description, we double-crossed the car and abducted the man.
“We took the man in my car into a forest along the Lagos-Ibadan Expressway, and I left him with Bamidele and others and went home. Four days after, Bamidele called me and said that the man had been released and the sum of N2.5 million was paid as ransom. He told me that my share was N200, 000 and that I should meet him at Ikorodu for the money.
“I was at Ibeju-Lekki when he called, and l left what I was doing and hurried to Ikorodu and met him in a fast food joint. He was with someone when I came in and that person introduced himself as Tradition. He is also from my hometown in Arugbo, just like Bamidele. I gave him N1, 000 from my share of the ransom, and he took my phone number and promised to call me.
“I also wish to remind you that two weeks ago, he called me that they had a kidnapping job and that it would not be stressful and it would fetch a huge sum of money. I asked him how much I should be looking at, and he said I could likely get N5 million as my share if we succeeded. My car had gear box issues and I took it for repairs at Ladipo Spare Parts Market in Mushin. I took a commercial bus to Ikorodu.
“When I met Tradition, he took me to Lamienmu who he said brought the job, and we met him and nine others on the Imota Bridge. They took me to the bush where they said we would keep the victims, but I wasn’t pleased with the arrangement.  Surprisingly, there was nothing on ground and Lamienmu begged that we should bear with him. From that point, we moved to the school in four speedboats. Those who had guns came from the creek in Fatola, and when we got to the school, including Tradition and Lamienmu, we entered the school. Some others and I stood by the fence, waiting.
“When they brought one of the girls, I carried her into our boat and stayed with her. Others came later with the two other girls and when we went into the creek, we made wooden rafts for the girls to sleep and I slept inside one of the boats. The guys with the guns were on guard all through. Next, Lamienmu and Tradition interrogated the girls. One of them told us that her father was an engineer, while another told us that her father was a pastor.
“We took their parents’ phone numbers from them, and Tradition and Lamienmu called them (the parents) and demanded N200 million as ransom. After that, the girls told us that they were hungry. We asked what they wanted to eat and they told us that they wanted Viju Milk, Lacasera and Indomie.
“Lamienmu’s younger brother, Gideon, was asked to go to town and get them. He went and came back safely, but three days later, when the things he bought got finished, he went into town and came back with the news that policemen were everywhere looking for the girl. The camp became apprehensive with the news and we started contemplating how to release the girls quietly.
“At a time, we reduced our demand to N30 million. By Saturday, we saw Lamienmu’s father creeping into the camp. The guys with guns almost fired him, but what saved him was that he yelled that he was Lamienmu and he was allowed to come closer to be identified. He told us that the police had arrested his wife, Lamienmu’s sister and Tradition’s wife as well, but Lamienmu insisted that we must release the girls or he would kill himself.
“When he left, the camp was thrown into confusion, and when it settled, we all agreed that we should allow the girls to go. By 5:00a.m. on Sunday, Tradition and four others took the girls out of the camp and dropped them off. I waited till the next day before leaving the camp, and when I came out, I went to Ladipo and checked the mechanic who was working on my car, gave him some money and I went back into the creek.
“However, I had this feeling that the police were looking for me. By Thursday, the mechanic called and said he had finished with my car. Then I decided to pick it up and drive out of Lagos. When I got to Ladipo, I didn’t see the mechanic. I called him and he said he was at Iyana Ipaja, washing the car. When I got there, the police showed up and arrested me and accused me of being part of the gang that abducted the schoolgirls.
“But like I have told you, I am not a vandal. I work in a sawmill in Ibeju-Lekki, but it was Tradition who brought me into this business.”
We went from pipeline vandalism to kidnapping – second and third suspects
The second and third suspects, Wekemei Godfrey, 28, from Arogbo, Ondo State, and Priye Pius Gift, 26, who were both arrested in Mosebolatan Guest House in Ibafo, Ogun State, through one of their girlfriends, said they were pressured into joining the gang.
Godfrey confessed that Tradition, who is also known as Felix, recruited them. Narrating how he joined the gang, he said: “I started my life as a fisherman in Delta State and later relocated to Akwa Ibom State. I was exporting Afang leaf to Cameroon and I was making a reasonable amount daily from the business. One day, I met Priye Pius and Tradition, and since we were all from the same town, we became friends. After a while, Tradition left us and went to Lagos, while Pius and I continued our business.
“Early last year, we started having issues with some militants while crossing into Cameroon. The militants were demanding so much money and when we didn’t give it to them, they normally destroyed our goods. Things worsened. Luckily, Tradition came and told us that fuel business was fetching him serious money in Arepo, and that we should come and join him. We immediately followed him to Lagos and he bought 100 50-litre jerry cans for both of us and we started going into the creek to fetch petrol from the pipelines.
“We normally paid the vandals controlling the line between N5, 000 and N10, 000, and they usually allowed us to load our jerry cans. Later, we took the jerry cans to shore and sold them for N1, 000 each to Tradition who would resell to other people. We did this business until there was massive explosion at the site that killed so many people.
“Pius and I were just lucky. On the night that the incident happened, we decided to take a little rest from work. By 2:00a.m, we heard the massive explosion by morning, but when the fire died down, I went into the creek and assisted in the burial of those who were killed. I had a rethink of that business because of what I saw.
“Pius and I left Arepo and relocated to Majidun, and started doing bamboo business. We normally went into the forest to cut the bamboo and we used to sell them to people dredging sand, and they paid us between N25, 000 and N30, 000 but the problem with that business was that we didn’t sell all the time. Three weeks ago, Tradition came to our place here in Majidun and he told us that he wanted to take part in a kidnapping business. I told him that I wasn’t interested because I had no one to help me if we were arrested.
“However, he pressured Pius and I but we refused, and he went with some other guys and they didn’t succeed. He came to us again and said that the reason why they didn’t succeed was because they didn’t have enough manpower. He told us that the business was going to fetch us good money, and because we are his friends, he would want us to take part in it. I accepted reluctantly, and by evening of the day we were to go for the operation, I told my girlfriend that I was going to spend some time with some of my brothers. Pius and I met Tradition at the agreed spot, and we went to the creek and from there, we drove to  the school in three speedboats.
“At the scene of the operation that fateful day, Pius and I stood by the fence watching for anyone approaching. After they had abducted the girls and taken them to the forest, Pius and I prepared the raft and left. We were also the ones taking them to defecate whenever they were pressed. You can confirm from the girIs whether I was nice to them or not. If you ask the girls, they will tell you that Pius and I were very nice to them.
“We were also part of the team that went and dropped them. We took them under the bridge and gave them money, and asked them to climb on the bridge and seek help. When we left the camp, I called my girlfriend to be careful because I had done something nasty and she should watch her movement because the police might come for her or me. I later told her to meet me at the hotel where I lodged in Ogun State because I thought it would be difficult for the police in Lagos to trace us to that place. But I don’t know how they arrested my girlfriend, and she brought them to the hotel where I was lodged and they arrested me.”

Russia plane crash: Investigators say 'all on board died'

Russia plane crash: Investigators say 'all on board died'

Investigators have said that all those on board a passenger plane that crashed while landing at Russia's Rostov-on-Don airport today have died.
According to Reuters the Boeing 737-800 Flydubai operated jet, crashed at 3.50 am local time at while carrying 55 passengers and seven crew members.
The airline has confirmed there were fatalities as a result of the crash but did not comment on how many.
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Airline believes 'there are no survivors' from Russia crash

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Operative service teams are still at the airport of Rostov-On-Don trying to establish what happened Credit: REUTERS/Sergei Pivovarov
Airline flydubai has confirmed that it believes "there are no survivors" after one of their planes crashed while landing at Russia's Rostov-on-Don airport.
Posting on Facebook the flight operator said: "While we are still awaiting final confirmation, it is with great sadness that we report we believe there are no survivors.
"We are unable to provide more specific details at this moment"

Only Prayers can Cause Change in Nigeria, Says Women Group

Only Prayers can Cause Change in Nigeria, Says Women Group

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A group,”When Women Pray” (WWP), an interdenominational Christian fellowship comprising of women, has called on Nigerians to pray to God to intervene in the country’s current crisis.
The group stated that prayer was the only activity that could secure the needed change in the country.
Speaking at a press conference to announce the group’s forthcoming sixth anniversary, the Resident and Zonal Pastor, WWP, Lagos and Southwest Region, Pastor Temilade Zurike highlighted the importance of prayer in transforming a family, community, city and the country at large.
She noted that a woman plays a major role in the family, and that the success of a country depended on how she effectively managed her home, stating that this was the reason for establishing the fellowship.
“When Women Pray is a fellowship that seeks to raise godly women and aimed at making women come to the awareness of the importance and power of prayer. Basically, we meet regularly to pray for ourselves, families and the nation at large. Our core values are anchored on five cardinal points, which include: Forgive Quickly, No Gossip, Patience, Love and God’s word.”
On the arrangements for the forthcoming anniversary, which will hold in Lagos on April 6, Zurike said the group had chosen to mark this year’s anniversary in a unique way different from how it was held in the past.
“This year, we have chosen to reach out to all women across the country, to carry every woman along so that it will no longer be restricted to a particular segment of the society. The theme of this year’s anniversary is ‘God Cannot Lie’ where the National President of the Fellowship, Pastor Opi Agha and all other anointed women of God will be ministering.”

Million Subscribers by 2020

Million Subscribers by 2020

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Fifth telecoms player in Nigeria, Ntel, said it aims to capture over a third of the 150 million Nigerian population by year 2020.
The new telecommunications company, which recently launched its number preservation campaign, also disclosed that it would reward the first batch of subscribers on its network, who reserve their numbers and activate their sim cards on or before April 8, this year.
Following the announcement, the firm revealed that, it had recorded an impressive turnout of subscribers who visited its website to register.
According to the company, under the terms of campaign, the first batch of subscribers to reserve their numbers on the network, and subsequently SIM-activate after launch, would be recognised as pioneers on the new mobile network, marking them out as the first to reap its promise of abundant broadband on its pure-play Advanced 4G/LTE network.
Speaking on this development, Chief Executive Officer of Ntel, Kamar Abass, noted that “Ntel is a proudly Nigerian company that is fully committed to empowering Nigerians through a technologically advanced pure-play 4G/LTE network. Those who reserve their numbers, and subsequently SIM-activate with us, will be the vanguard of a select corps of privileged subscribers.
“Prospective subscribers who are yet to key into the campaign are urged to do by logging on the company’s website,www.ntel.com.ng, then pick and reserve up to five numbers of their choice and register before the campaign period elapses.”
Abass noted further “We expect to see more than 50m 4G/LTE subscribers in Nigeria by 2020 and we are delighted to be leading this transformation towards that critical mass of customers.”
He said Ntel, which made its first voice over LTE call in Lagos on February 25, 2016, is positioned to lead the way as Nigeria’s most advanced 4G/LTE network.

N780bn Fine: Court Strikes out MTN’s Suit against FG

N780bn Fine: Court Strikes out MTN’s Suit against FG

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Justice Mohammed Idris of the Federal High Court in Lagos yesterday formally struck out the suit filed by MTN Nigeria to challenge the imposition of N780 billion fine on it by the Nigerian Communications Commission (NCC).
The suit, THISDAY gathered, was struck out following the firm’s notice to discontinue the case.
It was further learnt that striking out the suit was to pave the way for continued settlement discussions with the federal government towards an amicable resolution of the matter in the best interests of the telecom company and Nigeria.
THISDAY gathered that the decision by the telecommunications giant formally withdraw the suit based on its opinion that it would not be proper to continue negotiation while the suit was pending in court.
The NCC had fined MTN Nigeria a record N1.04 trillion last October for failing to deactivate 5.1 million unregistered lines from its network.
Following weeks of high-level negotiation between the company and government officials, the fine was reduced to N780 billion.
Dissatisfied with the reduction, MTN dragged the Nigerian government before a Federal High Court in Lagos, seeking to stop the payment of the fine, for which the NCC gave it a December 31, 2015 deadline to pay.
But MTN through its team of lawyers; Chief Wole Olanipekun (SAN), Prof. Fabian Ajogwu (SAN) and seven others, through an originating summons, challenged the powers of NCC to impose such a fine on it.
The telecoms company argued that NCC being a regulator, could not assume all the functions of the state on its own, considering the fact that they made the regulation, prescribed the penalty and imposed the fine, payable to the commission and not the federal government.
The firm also alleged that it was not afforded its constitutional right of fair hearing before a court of competent jurisdiction and more importantly, it had not been found guilty of any offence that would warrant it to pay such outrageous fine.
It contended that the sanction imposed on it by NCC was within 24 hours of its written submission on the disconnection exercise and the impractical nature of the NCC deadline.
Stating that the deadline of seven days to disconnect 5.2 million subscribers was grossly inadequate and impracticable, the telecoms company said the deadline to disconnect 5,200,000 subscribers was unfair and ran contrary to the requirement to give adequate notice to the subscribers and all operators.
It accused the regulatory agency of acting as a legislator, executor, accuser, prosecutor, judge and beneficiary of the penalty imposed and that the sanction (N200,000 per SIM) imposed on it was excessive.
It stated that the fine imposed on it, till date, was the highest fine ever imposed on a telecommunications company in the world, wondering if the fine was truly commensurate to the purported breach and if not would to frustrate the business of the company in Nigeria.
However, last month, MTN Nigeria indicated its willingness to settle out-of-court.
As part of the negotiation, the telecommunications company had paid the sum of N50 billion out of the N780 billion fine the NCC imposed on it.
A statement issued by the telecommunications company earlier this weekend stated that the sum of N50billion was paid to the federal government “as a gesture of good faith and commitment to continued efforts towards an amicable resolution”.
MTN Nigeria’s CEO, Ferdi Moolman, while speaking on the new development, said: “This is a most encouraging development. It demonstrates a willingness and sincerity by both parties to work together towards a positive outcome. We are hopeful at this stage. Along with the authorities, it is clear that we are collectively committed to working towards a solution that is of mutual benefit to all parties. Our industry in Nigeria is an incredibly important example of the remarkable progress in ICT particularly as a much needed catalyst for socio-economic growth and development at this time.”

Stella Damasus: At 16, I Was Already Popular and Making Money

Stella Damasus: At 16, I Was Already Popular and Making Money

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A riveting personality; unflinching in her conviction and unapologetic in her decision; she is not afraid to swim against any tide. Young, gorgeous and graceful, Stella Damasus is one of the best actresses in Nigeria. Also a gifted singer, Stella is no stranger to the klieg light. Mesmerising in movie roles, aura and intelligence, she exudes humility tempered with straightforwardness. Young, rich and popular, she wanted to live life to the full; to get married young and grow up with her family. At 21, that wish was fulfilled; though she married a man she truly loved, the marriage did not last long. Another shot at marriage was short-lived. Once a widow, later a divorcee but now in a third marriage, Stella is unapologetic about marrying the ex (Daniel Ademinokan) of a fellow actress, Doris Simeon. In this interview with Oge Ezeliora, Stella, a mother of two, talks about her short-lived marital bliss with Jaiye Aboderin, an eight-month marital flop with another man and her newfound love with Ademinokan. The actress also bares her mind on why celebrities endure abusive marriage
What is your real name?
Stella Damasus (Stella Ojukwu).
What is your state of origin?
I was born in Asaba, Delta State.
Take us through your background.
I grew up in Benin City (Edo State) where I completed most of my primary education. I was born into a family of six (five girls and one boy; he is now late). I also attended Greater Tomorrow Primary School and Idia College, both in Benin. I had my tertiary education at the University of Lagos where I studied Creative Arts and graduated in 2002.
Where did you meet your first husband?
I met my first husband Jaiye (now late), who was one of the children of late Chief Olu Aboderin – founder of The Punch Newspapers – at Jazzville Onike, Yaba, Lagos State. And our (marital) union lasted for seven years which left me a widow for four years, before I decided to remarry.
How did you feel the first time you appeared in front of the camera?
My first Nigerian film was titled ‘Abused’ in 1992. So far I have done over 300 movies and have lost count of some of them. In 2009, I was nominated for Best Actress in a leading role at the African Movie Academy Awards. So I have received so many awards that I can’t remember and I know more will still come.
At what point in your career did you divert to music?
Music to me happens to be an inborn thing. As a child I sang in church. So I just decided to bring out another talent that God has given me. And the songs did successfully well in the market.
How did you cope getting married to your first husband, Jaiye Aboderin, at the age of 21?
I always wanted to start (married life) early. I always wanted to have children early. I wanted to have an early marriage; I wanted to grow with a family. I wanted to learn the inside of it. I didn’t want to wait and grow, and mature, and become big and famous then start to wonder ‘oh, will anyone marry me now’. I didn’t want that to happen because at 16 I was already popular. I was making money; I was travelling. So at that point looking at my life, I said, if I do this for another five, six, seven years and I don’t start a family, it will become more difficult for me later on. So, I decided if I find somebody who I love, who will love me back, we will go together. We will fight all the fight and make up; we will do whatever but we will grow old together. And that’s what happened.
But did you regret that decision?
I am happy I made that decision; because today I have a 17-year-old. I grew up with my children. When you see the three of us, and you see my daughters, you will think we are sisters. And we talk as friends. So it was an important thing for me to have a family (early). We have a tendency to be crazy and do whatever we like because we could get away with anything. We could travel all over the world. We could get people to like us like this (snaps finger); we had money to throw around. If I didn’t have that family unit to check me, I don’t know what I would have become and I won’t lie about that.
How did you recover from losing your husband then?
They say time heals. I say, I have a different definition. I say time numbs. It is not something that heals, and then that’s it, it’s gone; no. This is someone you planned to spend the rest of your life with, and grow with. Then, we made plans like every other couple. And when that happened…he died when I was 26 with two children. I just felt that my life had ended. So, but with time, this year, December 3rd will be 10 years, one full decade. So it is not healing, I won’t call it healing but I will say it numbs and once in a while, the pain is as fresh like yesterday. But it is how you deal with it that matters. And that’s what I have had to do for the past 10 years. I am very grateful for the family I have.
How true is your relationship with Daniel Ademinokan?
Let me put it this way; let me help you hit the nail on the head. One of the comments I have seen consistently, over and over again is, ‘Stella snatches somebody’s husband’; ‘Stella the husband snatcher’; which is what has been going on. And I had sworn that I would never talk about it or even listen or stress myself about the issue. But I have decided to talk about it now, so that I end it once and for all. First of all, let me paint a picture for you and you let me know what makes sense to you. Let’s go to the dictionary, when I looked up the word snatch or steal –it means forcefully taking something away from its original position or forcefully from its original position to another position; something that does not belong to you – that’s what I gathered from the word snatch or steal. So I looked at myself, Stella, and I wondered, how is it possible to go to somebody’s home, and take a man, and take his son, away from his home and say follow me. (Let’s assume) You are a man, and according to their story, he is happily married inside his home. With his family complete and I walk into that home, to forcefully take a man, able-bodied man, and a kid, away from somebody’s hand and you are there looking at me. How does that work?
So logically, if people actually sit down and think about it intelligently, how do you snatch somebody from somebody and the person is there looking at you? So when you see a man who has settled ties with a woman and decides to move on with his life and you feel that there is something in this man that you like and he likes you, is there a problem there?. I am not a kid. I am 36 years old. I am not about to start hiding myself. I was waiting for somebody to actually ask me this question, because all I have heard for the past two to three years are rumours. They said, blogs said, this said. Nobody has been bold enough to confront me and ask me. So I say, if I steal something from somebody, and the person is really the owner of the thing, you come and ask me, ‘You took something from me, give me back’. But nobody was able to do that. And I am like, if I meet an able-bodied man that has left (his family) and moved on; that is not even in the same house with whoever and is not doing anything with whoever, and both parties had decided this thing (marriage) is not going anywhere, and they have gone their separate ways, why is it easier for the world to blame the woman that the man has decided to end up with? Why is it that it is always that woman that broke that home? The two people that did things that nobody was there; nobody said something must have happened between the two people. It is always somebody else that is the problem. And I always say I do not tolerate blaming anybody for your own problems. I have had problems. After my late husband’s death, I got married again and the marriage didn’t work.
After eight months, it crashed. People didn’t hear much about it; why? We were both mature to understand that we came together; we knew that the thing was not working and instead of us to become enemies we will remain friends; let’s just let it go quietly. And we let it go quietly. I didn’t blame anybody else for doing it (for not making my second marriage work). He didn’t blame anybody else for doing it. So I am wondering, two people come together and they later go their separate ways; this one meets somebody, all of a sudden, it is that somebody that is the problem. Did anybody ever ask, what went wrong? Why would a man pick up his son and walk away from his marriage? Was there any time another woman was the problem until the man moved on with another woman? Nobody brought up Stella’s name. Then, all of a sudden, ‘oh he’s moved on with somebody else (snaps fingers); it must be her’. How? I am still waiting for somebody to come with proof to say ‘oh when they were still in marriage, when they were still in a house, you came and did this.’ So the reason why I don’t like talking about it is that, there are some things I would say to you and you would look at me like ‘oh wow!’ but I don’t want to be derogatory. I don’t want to toe the line that other people have toed by saying bad things about people. I would never do that but the stories started coming.
At first I ignored the stories. I just kept quiet and then it was all over the place, Google, blogs, and I am like, one day, one day, I would tell my story. There’s a reason why I am respecting certain people, respecting certain legal issues that are going on. So there might be some things I may not hammer on, but whenever you hear this person snatched this person’s, you will ask the person, the person that they said was the original owner, what was the person doing when they were snatching the person from him or her? I don’t get it. Do you understand? So I look at it, I am not ugly, I am not dumb. Of all the men in the world, I will now go and look for somebody else’s own and say this is the one I want. If he didn’t come out of it and say I want to be with you and you want to be with me, how? Why would I come and grab…? Am I that bad-looking? Am I that old? If I have 50 husbands, how does that affect you? Does it change my work? I do my work, you enjoy it.
It’s not about what I do in my bedroom that is your issue because you don’t really know what happens in people’s bedrooms. You don’t know what happens in marriages. You don’t know why people like us are very weary of people knowing (about) our business. You don’t know how many marriages are suffering in silence. The issue of domestic violence that I am fighting for, it is part of it. There are marriages that they will tell themselves, especially celebrities we suffer from that. You are in a marriage and because you are worried about the press, the media, you stay in. You just stay in; you act, you play for the camera; you act like everything is okay. Then you get home and everything is hell because you know the moment you take that bold step and walk away, the backlash will be so bad. But you now ask yourself, to stay in and become a monster or to just quietly leave and preserve my sanity. When you leave to preserve your sanity, then the world wants to make you crazy. You understand. So, it’s a matter of choice. People make choices every day. They’ve made theirs, I have made mine; if you can’t deal with it, no problem. It is my life. Live yours and I will live mine. And I am Happy. I am not ashamed; never a moment of regret.
On Daniel Ademinokan’s relationship with his ex-wife, Doris, what is your view?
Whatever issues a man has with his wife, when they deal with it, they deal with it. I don’t come into it. And once you are done with it, and ready to move on, and you want to move on with me, and I want a life with you, it’s me and you. I don’t care what anybody else is thinking or saying. People have said this; it hurts because of the impression people tried to create but I looked at myself and asked myself, ‘Stella in your heart do you believe you did anything bad?’ If my answer is no, then my dear, there is no looking back. Because I am not a kid for me to make a decision and say I want to be with this person.
What is your view about marriage and choosing a partner?
Ladies need to be careful when choosing a life partner. Women should strive to keep their homes; stop feeling too relaxed in any relationship because it could be dangerous. Before a lady should profess her love for a guy, she should first investigate the man’s goals in life and weigh them against hers. It is not a must for a lady to get married to the wealthiest man. A lady should date a guy who has something meaningful doing for himself. One thing that I find that is the most prevalent among women is saying the man has potential. The truth is, we think that we just meet a man, we fall in love and we want to marry potential. We cannot marry potential; that is why we fall into the issues that we face every day in marriages. One thing that I have learnt through experience to people around me is that when you meet a guy, you start to date, you start to fall in love even before you get to that point where he decides to pop the question way before then. Your dating period should be a time where you get to know each other; not what he likes or who his friends are but who he is as a man in terms of his goals in life. If his goals in life do not work with your own, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.